Kat Von D et Sandra Bullock sont à la veille de se partir un groupe de solidarité de femmes trompées. En fait, Kat Von D, qui n’est plus avec Jesse James, vient de publier quelque chose d’un peu étrange sur Facebook. Contrairement à Sandra, Kat Von D aime parler publiquement de ses affaires. Ceci étant dit, elle a écrit un article qui fait le point sur où elle en est dans son processus de guérison de sa rupture avec Jesse. Elle commence l’article en disant qu’elle a rencontré la 19e fille avec qui Jesse avait couché, pendant qu’ils étaient ensemble. Elle pose ensuite un diagnostic sur les problèmes de son ex. Elle raconte comment elle pensait qu’elle allait être capable de le changer; à quel point elle s’est trompée et que toute la relation était une erreur. Kat s’étend aussi sur le fait qu’elle est tannée d’avoir l’image de celle qui a brisé le couple Jesse/Sandra. Kat fini l’article en affirmant qu’elle ne désire pas fournir de matériel aux tabloïds avec cet article, mais qu’elle l’a écrit dans une tentative de faire la paix avec toute l’histoire.
Jesse a vraiment tout détrui sur son passage, un genre de trompeur en série;
c’est plutôt triste…
«Today I encountered the 19th girl to add to the list of people Jesse cheated on me with during this last year. I kept going back and forth in my mind as to what the best way would be for me to release and let go of any residual feelings remaining from that toxic relationship. All of this may sound petty or immature to some, but I assure you this is coming from a place of pure honesty and love.
There was a time when I was confident and excited at proving the world wrong, because I believed so deeply in people's ability to change for the better. Although this was not a primary purpose in the relationship, I did feel like it would be a positive thing for those who judged Jesse solely based on what they read in tabloids, to see that change is always possible – even in the people who seem hopeless.
I still believe that, even if that change never occurs inside of him – because I see proof of change everyday – in others, and in myself. I'm far from perfect, but am willing to examine myself, and my patterns of dysfunction, and then put in the work to better myself. It's a daily practice, but it's working.
Sure, its easy to tell someone, “I told you so†especially if you're criticizing someone from the outside, but that attitude comes from a place called Ego, and not Love. I know I deserve a big fat “I told you so,†from everyone, and wish I didn't have to say, “You all were more right than you'll ever know†but you were.
Not to worry, I've gladly paid the consequences for every mistake I've ever made, but learned so much from each of them. Yes, I am pretty tired of getting mistaken for the girl who everyone believes to have broken up Jesse and Sandra's marriage, just because I have black hair andtattoos like that other gal. That does get a quite annoying at times, and it would be nice to not be associated with her, but that's trivial in the grand scheme of things.
I think it just made me sad today to imagine him still in that dark place – where seeking validation through the attention of women takes precedence over being a good father, a sincere friend, a better coworker, and a happy individual. I tried my best to go through all of this without venting, or complaining, or fueling more tabloid mumbo jumbo – but this isn't about any of that.This is about me making peace with myself, and forgiving myself for making some bad mistakes. »
Crédit: Fame
